How to relate with a narcissist

This is one of the suggested topics I received. I’m happy to write about it because of my passion for knowing why people act the way they do. A narcissist is

someone who excessively admires themselves to the extent that it affects their relationship with others. However, there is a difference between narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder. You can read about the difference HERE. 

I don’t think I have been close to a narcissist so I can’t share any personal experience but due to research on this topic (as a psychologist) and the similarities in the description of a narcissist by people, these are some common traits:

- Pride.

- Sense of entitlement.

- Overexaggerates their achievements.

- They don't accept correction.

- Detests working in teams

- Don't have long term friendships/relationships

- Act flawless.

- Control others.

- See things as a threat

- Inability to be vulnerable. 

- Lacks empathy.

- They only see the negative in others.

- Sees nothing wrong with their behavior.

You may wonder why they act that way, to some extent there isn't a particular reason but it could be as a result of an abusive upbringing, following the footsteps of their parent, lack of self-confidence, operating from an 'alternate reality' or it could be a narcissistic personality disorder.

So the big question is: how do you cope with a narcissist? I know the first thing you'll say is 'you don't have to keep them in your life' lol. Well, I understand it can be like walking on eggshells before you throw in the towel, consider:

• praying for them.
• Being emotionally ready if you have to be with them (if they are part of your family).
• Not taking what they say personally. 
• Giving them some space. 
• Being in control of your emotions. 
• Knowing when to apologize and when not to if crises arise.
• Talking to a professional to know how to help them (again, if they are people you can't cut out from your life: like family).

How would you relate with a narcissist?